I am, and always have been, a firm believer that you do not leave your current job unless you have another lined up.
Nowadays that may make me old school but to me the unknown, especially when one needs to survive and support their family, others, or just themselves, is terrifying.
Times can be hard enough to make ends meet but purposefully putting yourself into that position, without a future paycheque in sight is lunatic!! Right?
It is very true that money can't buy one's happiness. It also can't buy you mental health, stress relief, or save you from burnout. Well maybe it can. Temporarily. Like a vacation.
But then you're back. Back with the hope that maybe things have changed. Maybe things have settled down. Maybe you have help. Maybe you get a raise. Maybe you're more appreciated. Maybe.
Nothing changed. Everything is just the same. Only now it's worse. It's worse because you were hopeful, and that hope was crushed when you realized not a thing has changed.
You realized while you were on vacation or had an extra-long weekend, that the job is the same. Nothing has changed there. You can feel the energy, the passion, the excitement draining from you. You can feel it being replaced with trepidation, dread, sadness. You can feel the tensions rise at home and in your personal relationships.
Sadness because you also have realized the only thing that can change is you. You can't change the job. You can't change other people. You can't change a company. You only have control over yourself and what you allow to impact you.
That was me.
So, without another job in site, I gave my very short and to the point 2 weeks’ notice. I absolutely left on good terms. I loved my team. It literally hurt to say goodbye to them and to leave them behind.
What came next?
Fear randomly entering my thoughts. Fear before I fall asleep. Fear when I wake up... what have I done? What will I do? Who will ever hire me?
What have I done?!!?
I have put myself into a situation where I have no choice but to put myself out there. Introduce myself to the job market. Create connections with people and companies that excite me.
I have put myself in control of my life. I have put a smile back on my face. I have created peace in my home. I have strengthened my personal relationships.
I have realized I am worth more than that. I deserve more than that. I work too hard and give too much of myself to everything I do to allow myself to slowly be destroyed in an environment that is unhealthy.
Am I still a firm believer that you don't quit a job without another lined up?
No one knows you better than you. No one knows how much you're truly suffering. No one knows the price you're paying but you.
You must take care of you. There's no one more important than YOU!
Everyone's situation is different and if you're leaving for the right reasons, not just because, then you can feel justified. Just make sure it's something you'll be ok with because it will invite a whole other kind of stress and anxiousness into your life.
It will also motivate you.